In loving memory of
|LETTERS ABOUT BRIAN FROM FRIENDS (scroll down)|
SOME of the letters and comments ABOUT Brian from family, friends and co-workers that actually knew Brian. If your letter did not get posted, please let me know.
The family appreciates all the prayers, thoughts, poems, cards, phone calls, and donations sent to CrimeLine. Knowing so many people cared about Brian really helps.
I am Steven Steinfeld. I am sure you have heard my name many times in the past , as have your daughter Renee. And I hope you remember me as well. Some of the pictures you have posted on Brian's site are either in a hat we had bought together in New Orleans or in my home on my couch in Jan 1992. It deeply saddens me to have to write this letter, as I am just now finding out about the passing of my dear friend that I cherish so many memories of. Such as going to high school together, to us working at Publix together, and growing up together. He was at my side when our friend Jon died in 1994, and I came up to see him in Orlando when Greg passed. I am just sorry that no one had got a hold of me last summer so I could pay my respects. Brian use to stay with me when he came down to visit you guys and drop off China at your home. This year was a busy one for me and when I did not hear from him around the holidays I assumed it was because you guys did not live here anymore. I really wish that was the reason I did not see him at Christmas time. I never realized it was due to such a tragic event.
I do not know what to do or say, I am at a loss for words and full of emotion. I am sorry for your loss just does not seem to be enough. I did get in touch with other long time friends that Brian had touched over the years informing them of his passing. If you could get in touch with me and let me know where Brian is buried or if he was cremated, I really would like the chance that I missed to pay my final respects. I will miss him dearly. He was the oldest friends I had. We met in Mr. Linche’s 1st period class in 10th grade when he first moved to Coral Springs. Although his move to Orlando but some distance between us as well and time and age, he still was close to my heart and meant a great deal to me. Your son was a wonderful man and brought great joy to my life. He was one of the few people that I have met that I felt I could always count on. My god bless you and your family, Brian will always be in my thoughts and prayers. I will miss him dearly.
I found out about the tragic events through a common friend Brian and I have named Tom Sokolosky. I believe it was a company call New River Technologies where Brian hired Tom and they worked together. Upon hearing the news from Tom (he said he was on line looking up old friends and found out) the first thing I did was call Brian's phone. Because I could not believe such a thing and I was certain Tom had made some kind of error. When the message came up that the number was not in service my heart dropped and I called my mother and asked her to google Brian's name along with Orlando, and my mother clicked on what came up. The news from the Orlando Sentinel along with your website came up. As soon as I got in from work and had access to my own PC I looked for myself. I read it all and cried in shock and disbelief. My wonderful friend of so many years is gone. But I have a more memories of wonderful times from trips to the Keys with his corvette to times hanging out or should I say "Veggin Out" at one another's house enjoying some time off of work and or school. Please feel free to call me at anytime. I just hope you know how close your son and I were, and I share your sorrow. A big part of my life is gone and will never be the same again. I am so angry at the person that could have done this to my dear life long friend. I promise you your son will never be forgotten, but he will always be missed. Brian's friend, Stephen - April 6, 2009
Karen and Lee:
Just wanted to relay my sympathies to you on the untimely death of your son. I worked at Tribune, but I did not know him personally. I only heard good things about Brian. I hope that they catch his killer and that you get justice for Brian.
Karen and Lee,
Brian first reached out to me and my team last spring to grow Orlando's presence on the iPhone. I truly enjoyed working with him -- and the fact that my project was not even on his job description made me respect him even more. He said he worked on iPhone apps at home in his spare time.
I'm glad that I had met him during one of his trips to Chicago. I got laid off in June and was shocked to hear that he got laid off as well -- and now this. I am truly sorry.
He is truly a unique individual and will be in my prayers.
- From a former Tribune Employee in Chicago
To Brian's family:
To Brian's Family,
Dear Karen and Lee
Dearest Karen, Lee and Renee,
Dear Aunt Karen,Uncle Lee,cousin Renee and Family.
Everyone is devastated by Brian's death. No one can find the words to
express the sadness and loss. Know that you are loved, Karen and Lee,
and in this knowledge, gain strength and comfort. May God wrap you in
Peace. Cat Powell, Port Charlotte, Florida
Dear Lee and Karen
Words cannot express how sorry we are, our thoughts and prayers are
with you at this time. Remember all the good times we had at all the Easter
picnic's. There is always so much good to remember. (Cherisse's Mom and
Dad)Jane and Bruce Zabadal, Fresno, California
Karen, Lee, and Family, Words can not express how we fealties is
such horrible news.....we wish we could be there for you but know that
your in our thoughts and prayers. If there is anything at all that you
need or anything that we can do for you please do not hesitate to let
us know. Ernie and Debbie Smith, Hallstead, Pennsylvania
Karen and Lee and Family,
Karen, Lee and Renee, I am truly sorry for the loss of your son and
brother. Brian will be remembered in my prayers.
Dear Lee and Karen,
My Dearest Brother and Sister-in-Law, There is not a day that goes by that I do not think of you and Brian. I keep his picture close by and look at it every now and then. I don't need to be reminded of what a great guy Brian turned out to be because he was lucky enough to have two great parents. He turned out to be a great man just like his dad. Brian knew the meaning of life in so many ways and we can all learn from him. With all my Love, Your sister Lisa
A child who lived across the street from Brian,put sunflower seeds, a baseball and more under the flag in front of Brian's house. He also left a note that reads: "Mr. Brian - Thank you for always being nice to me and teaching me about electronics." Shane Roman
This is a poem Lisa Roman wrote as she reflected on how my neighbor
Brian and I became very close friends.
I was Blessed to see him every day waving as he passed.
Every day we see neighbors, co-workers, or perhaps a friend.
The universal language is a simple, friendly smile.
You'll never know what you would be missing if you busily just kept going.
A smile or two, then simple conversations like "How are you today", years later turned into knowing Brian in such a special way.
I will hold tightly the wonderful memories of Brian as I try to cope.
Brian was so special to me.
May he Rest in the PEACE that only Jesus Christ can give
GOD LOVES YOU AND SO DO I.
Lisa Roman, Orlando, Florida
will always love and miss you, Brian. You have been a loving son, brother,
and uncle, and just a great all-around person with a lot of friends. You
deserved a much longer life because you were a good, honest, and happy person
on the path of achieving your dreams of success. We are proud of the man
you became and will always love and miss you.
Mom, Dad, Renee, Kristen, and Alex
I cannot stop thinking of you and how you died in pain.
I wish I could have said goodbye and hug and kiss you one more time, or better yet, protect you as a mother should, and undo this terrible wrong. They say time heals all sorrow and will help us through this, the worst time of my life, and I know I will continue to live, but for now I just exist because I miss you so much. I read your writing on happiness at your service, and I know I will be happy again, but not today, not for a long, long time. What it means to lose you, words cannot express. You have been my loving son, a caring brother and uncle, and a good, generous man in life. So many people are better off for having known you, and none of them will ever forget you.
I know you knew Dad and I love you, and we know you loved us. We will love and miss you forever.
Until I see you in heaven…………..Love from your heartbroken Mom
|6/27/10 Today would be Brian Lee Duquette's 41st birthday, but he had to stop counting at age 39. Instead of celebrating Brian's birthday, the hole in our hearts just got even bigger today.|
September 2010 - Dear Brian, You now have a Great-Nephew who is named Anthony Brian in your honor. It is not the same as having you around, but I wanted you to know because your niece did a really nice thing when naming her first child. We miss you so much. We think about you every day, and our love for you will never end.
|6/27/11 Today would be Brian Lee Duquette's 42nd birthday, and the hole in our hearts just got even bigger today. There is no such thing as closure, even though we got justice.|
|6/27/12 Today would be Brian Lee Duquette's 43rd birthday, but he had to stop celebrating at age 39. Damn you Douglas Lively, I hope your birthdays are rotten along with all of your days as a matter of fact. You do not deserve anything good in your life because you have cheated the world out of all the good things Brian was doing for this world.|
|6/27/13 Today would be Brian Lee Duquette's 44st birthday. Time goes on, and our life goes on, but it will never be the same without Brian. The hole in our hearts just got even bigger today. Soon we won't have any heart left. it does not get any easier.|
|6/27/14 Today would be Brian Lee Duquette's 45th birthday if not for Douglas Lively. It is very difficult to accept that in another week it will be six years without Brian in our lives. But Brian is always in our hearts and thoughts. I am not sure how we manage to go on without him. I guess it is just because we don't have a choice.|
|6/27/15 Today would be Brian Lee Duquette's 46th birthday if not for Douglas Lively. It is still very difficult to accept that in another week it will be 7 years without Brian in our lives. But Brian is always in our hearts and thoughts. I am not sure how we manage to go on without him. I guess it is just because we don't have a choice.|
|6/27/16 Today would be Brian Lee Duquette's 47th birthday if not for Douglas Lively. Eight years have gone by and we still cry every day for him, and we hurt because he fought for his life and died in pain. As his mom, I still have nightmares about that. But Brian is always in our hearts and thoughts. We do smile and laugh when we talk about the good times with our son, but it is so hard being without him.|
September 2016 - My dear Brian, you just became a Great-Uncle once again, because Kristen has given Anthony a sister - Gabriella Lee. You were such a wonderful, caring, loving uncle to Kristen and Alex. It just isn't right that Anthony and Gabriella do not get the same privilege. You are missed by so many people.
|6/27/17 Today would be Brian Lee Duquette's 48th birthday if not for Douglas Lively. Nine years have gone by and we still cry every day for him, and we hurt because he fought for his life and died in pain. Brian is always in our hearts and thoughts. We do smile and laugh when we talk about the good times with our son, but it is so hard being without him.|
|6/27/18 Today would be Brian Lee Duquette's 49th birthday if not for Douglas Lively. The pain of losing him has not gone away, neither has our hatred for Douglas Lively. And don't anyone tell us that hate is wrong. In most cases it is, but we are more than justified to hate Douglas.|
|6/27/19 Today would be Brian Lee Duquette's 50th birthday if not for Douglas Lively. We really wonder what he would look like today. We know he would be successful in business, because he was smart and on the right track. Would he be in love and have a family? We will never know.|
|6/27/20 Today would be Brian Lee Duquette's 51th birthday. I still get sick to my stomach at the name of Douglas Lively. Oh Brian, you would really be enjoying Anthony and Gabriella as much as you enjoyed Kristen and Alex.|
|6/27/21 Today would be Brian Lee Duquette's 52nd birthday. Not only is this date hard for the entire family, but so is Thanksgiving, Christmas and all days really. Love and miss you more than words can say.|